There’s something about this transformation—this sacred unfolding—that makes me see relationships differently.
And not just romantic ones, but the everyday connections: with family, friends, my past, my inner child… and most of all, myself.

As a recovering people-pleaser, my focus was often on me—but not for me.
I wasn’t tuned inward; I was on high alert for how I was being perceived.

Whether it was my long, thick hair, my dark skin and full features, the way I spoke, or my love for language—people were always watching.
So I learned to curate myself. To stay “on.”
To protect myself from criticism by controlling the narrative.

But Wisdom…
Wisdom shifted the lens.

She whispered that dodging negative feedback is a losing game—and what I needed wasn’t perfection.
It was discernment.

Discernment to know what to internalize.
Who to listen to.
And what to lovingly release.

That learning comes only when you become deeply curious about who you really are—and committed to loving whatever you discover.

Loving me does not mean excusing my flaws.
It means enrolling in Wisdom’s curriculum and learning the hard yet holy truth:

I am not everyone’s cup of tea.
But I will still be sipped.
And I must take the first sip.

That sip is sacred.

When I began sipping from my own cup—flaws and all, quirks and all—it got easier to shift my focus.
I slowly began to realize:
I had been centering the commentary, not the core.
I was trying to “look good” to protect myself from rejection…

And that had nothing to do with me.
That was about them.

And that was the beginning of my focus shift.

This shift—guided by discernment—has been a journey of illumination and information.
A path paved with soft revelations.
And it has inspired me to share my journey with you.